Discover the Almost Magical Formula to Building Your Child's
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Peer Pressure
If you want to be a successful person, be a positive thinker. Do your best to eliminate negative thoughts from your mind and find the good in every situation. Negative thinking will hold you back from reaching your goals and being a healthy, happy and productive person. Look at virtually any highly successful person and you will quickly notice that they are a positive thinker. The evidence is all around you. See the pattern?
Your success will only grow to the level that you do. Always learning as much as you can from highly successful people, in and out of your four walls. The more you learn the better the school grades. Therefore, the more financial freedom, the better leader you will become.
Enter every situation with victory mindset and the intent to succeed. You must erase any self-doubt, fear and uncertainty from your psyche. Focus not on what you fear, but on where you want to go. You'll create self-fulfilling prophecies; the kind that lead to success. If you don't believe in yourself, then people around you won't either, and you'll never build the life of your dreams.
If you want to feel and think negatively, then spend time with negative people. They'll be sure to grab you by the ankles and pull you down to their level at every opportunity. On the other hand, success breeds success. The more you associate with winners, the more you'll start to think and act like one. 
Beware! There is a thief near you! And that thief is not after your money or your car. |
Parents, we live in a largely negative world. And, unless you are vigilant, that negativity will drain the confidence from
your son or daughter. Protecting the confidence of your child is an ongoing, never-ending task. The responsibility falls to you. If you don't undertake this important responsibility, who will?
Confidence Cannot Be Taught!
Okay, before you panic, listen closely to what I'm about to tell you. Confidence cannot be taught. Well, hold on now, I know you were hoping it could be. But it can't be taught.
Confidence must be learned.
See, just because you understand what confidence is doesn't mean you have it. It's not enough to learn what it is-you actually have experience it to become it.
So you can't teach it, but you can provide a class environment where the child can experience a feeling of confidence.
Jeff Cvitak's Martial Arts USA teachers use a 10 step approach to developing and protecting your child's confidence. You can use these strategies, too!
Bullying comes in two forms. One is physical (taunting, insulting) the second is emotional (shunning, spreading nasty gossip). It is deliberate and hurtful behavior, usually repeated over a period of time. Bullying is almost always done to kids who are perceived to be more vulnerable than the bullies.
The fear of being harassed in school gets in the way of learning, and makes going to school a miserable experience. Being bullied can make children feel lonely, unhappy and unsafe. Children who are being bullied may develop stomach aches, nightmares, nervousness and anxiety.
Too often, parents are the last to know their child is in trouble. Remember, bullies work through fear and manipulation. They often intimidate children into silence by threatening to harm them or by labeling them "wimps" or "babies" if they tell an adult what's going on. Therefore, it's important for parents of school-age children to be on the lookout for signs of bullying. If your son routinely comes home from school extremely hungry, ask him why. Maybe someone is taking his lunch.
Does your daughter rush to the bathroom as soon as she gets off the bus? Maybe she's afraid to enter the school bathroom because a child uses this place to threaten or intimidate her. It's a good idea to make it a habit to ask your child what's happening at school, especially if you suspect a problem.
Ask pointed questions ("Who's the bully in your class?" or "Who bothers kids on the bus?"), particularly if you are unable to be home when your child gets off the school bus. The reason? "By the time you arrive home and talk with your child about the day, she may no longer be focusing on the fact that Susie is bothering her on the bus. But that doesn't mean it wasn't upsetting to her."
Now, read carefully. I'm going to tell you a secret.
If you understand what I'm about to tell you, you will have the “key” to resolving this entire, frustrating situation.
The Secret: Some kids don't get picked on at all. That's right. Some kids don't get picked on – at all. They don't pick on other kids, either. They are free to enjoy themselves, to be themselves…and it wouldn't even occur to a bully to give them a hard time. Bullying is a very difficult problem to stop.
Our mission at Jason Yi's Tae Kwon Do College is to ensure every child has the right to feel safe and develop to their full potential. A goal of Jason Yi's US TKD College is to be a community leader and center for the fight against bullying. Sadly, we are involved with bullying to karate students and non-students on almost a weekly basis.
Can this crisis be stopped? First, we must develop an atmosphere in which bullying is always unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Second, it takes a whole community to save our children. We must arm the victim, bully, bystander, parents, schools and community with the anti-bullying tools and systems. "CONFIDENCE IS THE SECRET"
How To Make Your Child Bully Proof: |
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| 1) Make it clear that you accept your child's reports of what is happening and that you take them seriously. She needs to know she has someone on her side that is willing to help her. Today, you are her hero. Reassure her that this situation can be resolved. 2) At the same time, let her know that you do not think this is her fault. Her confidence has already taken a big hit, and she already feels like a victim.
3) While it is natural to want to protect your child by solving the problem for him, it will serve your child better if you teach him how to solve the problem himself. By learning the skills to stand up for himself, he can use them in other situations.
4) Ask your child how she has been dealing with the bullying, talk about what else can be done and discuss what actions you can both take to solve the problem. Reassure her you will consult her before taking any action. 5) Teach your child how to respond to a bully in a bold, assertive way. Practice with him at home by role playing. Participation in other activities builds confidence and develops social skills, making it easier to find ways of saying "Leave me alone". 6) Suggest that your child stick with two or more other children when at the playground, the bus stop or wherever she comes face-to-face with the bully. 7) Make sure your child knows it is okay to ask for help from a teacher or other adult. Practice what he'll say so he doesn't sound like he's whining or tattling. 8) Determine if your child has healthy friendshipswith other children. If not, perhaps she can benefit by developing better social skills. 9) Encourage her to invite friends over to your home and participate in school activities. 10) If necessary, meet with school representatives to discuss the problem. |
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