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7 Things You Must Do If You Want To |
Have "Bully Free Living" |
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| Confidence, motivation, and self-esteem. These are character traits we want in our |
| children and ourselves. It is not just children who are victims of the bully. You |
| might be intimidated by the CEO of a huge corporation who holds your job in his or |
| her power, or by a bully who lives down the block, or by a co-worker, your |
| hairdresser, your spouse, or even your own kids. |
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| 1. Build the self-esteem in yourself and your children |
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| Self-esteem is like a muscle. You must exercise it to build it and keep it in top shape. To have |
| self-esteem is the same as saying you feel good about yourself, you like yourself. Ask yourself if |
| you would like to have 'you' as a friend. If you've answered yes, then you have self-esteem. If |
| the answer is no, we have some work to do. |
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| 2. Daily inspiration |
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| Sometimes our lives are so busy that we don't take time to 'stop and smell the roses'. Tiny things |
| may trigger us to take a moment and reflect or project. This could be something as small as a |
| sentence in our email every day. |
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| 3. Protect your children |
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| Parents will go above and beyond when it comes to protecting their children. One way to protect |
| our children is to step between them and danger. Another is to prepare them to protect |
| themselves. Not with violence, but with wisdom. Take little steps, day by day. You'll be |
| surprised at the distance you've covered over time. |
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| 4. Wisdom is a key |
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| The definition of wisdom is 'The ability to discern or judge what is true, right, or lasting; insight. |
| Common sense; good judgment.' |
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| "It is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things" (Henry David Thoreau). |
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| I like to define wisdom as 'Knowledge, and knowing how to use it'. Bully Free Living |
| requires wisdom. Again, tiny steps day to day. |
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| 5. Self-confidence |
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| To walk with confidence is to repel the bully. Bullies are, more often then not, cowards. |
| They will target an easy victim. One that walks with no confidence, head down, shoulders |
| slumped. Self-confidence goes hand-in-hand with self-esteem. You can build the |
| confidence in yourself and your children by encouraging the participation in activities that |
| you (they) are good at. |
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| 6. Success in life |
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| Being successful in life is different to different people. To me, being successful in life means |
| achieving the goals that I have set for myself and being the best parent, friend, neighbor, co |
| -worker, boss, employee, husband, and future goal setter that I can be. |
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| 7. The skill of listening |
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| We've all heard the saying that we were given ONE mouth and TWO ears, so we should |
| listen twice as much as we talk. There is a skill to listening; I mean really listening. Think |
| about how you like to be heard. It makes you feel good that someone else cares enough to |
| listen. You spread that good feeling whenever you listen to others. Therefore, more self- |
| esteem is being spread. |
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| Bully Free Living is something that we must prepare for. It's not really a difficult task. |
| In fact, simple things will lead us. Something as simple as our thoughts. |
| Although it is not difficult, if we don't think about it, it may just sneak up on us. An |
| ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. |
